The six important lessons failures taught me.
I still remember it was 14 years back on a rainy June morning I left my home with a fungus smelling leather bag to the nearest railway station , to board a train ,a tightly packed general compartment Passing woods and plain terrain lakes and rivers which left me 1300 kilometers a 30 hour journey away from home ,where people spoke a different language ate food with a different flavor but still amazed by the thrill of exploring new place.
The journey never ended far and wide across India experiencing life in its fullest 14 years of travelling and living my life on my own terms, helped me to realize that in the terms of a majority of intellectuals and in terms of my own self – auditing, I am an example of failure.
Fourteen years Ten plus ventures
Education, Consulting stock broking Sales, technology, Branding and hardcore marketing and retail and much more. I established, run over a period.Each venture took me so high and ditched me deep down and I failed miserably. I fell every time I rose up. I complained, blamed my qualification, lack of support, my parents, being born in poor middle class and against my friends, circumstance people God and my blame list goes on and on. But never I blamed ME.
I have consulted many for a perfect solution everyone I met was so generous to offer me the best solutions and the suggested guided motivated and even insisted.Their solutions were brilliant apt and well exercised but I didn’t understand why nothing fit my problem aptly
The search begins within
“ All the answer you need are inside you. You only have to become quiet enough to hear them “
In 2015 I stopped my last venture consulting contrary to all the other ventures which I was running successfully at the time of winding up
I stopped questioning others and started questioning myself. It took 14 years for me to begin questioning myself.
Why did I fail?
“ Successful people ask better questions and as results, they get better answers “
Six reasons I failed.
Overthinking is a psychological issue if you do not get the real help you will be doomed I thought pros and cons of everything and act upon nothing and I did the same again and again over thinking always reminded me the worst, I have to face.
If my calculated risk goes wrong ? And It settled me in my comfort zone.
II-I did not trust in the divine intervention in my life.
I was born and brought up in the Catholic faith and I never missed my Sunday school and I knew personally Bible is the world’s best motivational best seller and the power of the word
“If ye have faith as a grain of mustard- seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place and it shall remove and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
But I lived all through these 14 years, the life of Doubting Thomas and I missed the power of mountain moving faith
III- I procrastinated ( simply I was lazy)
Some of the greatest risks in life are to be taken blindly or purely lead by instinct not by logic But it is always above your comfort zone when it comes to most of my kind mindset we just procrastinate as I did.
IV-I Didn’t have a clear Path
“Definiteness of purpose “
I never started any venture with a great goal and for a sense of achievement. I tricked my mind saying I am following the trend and it is the trend now and let me fish when the water is muddy.Now I just realized I walked towards a closed big wall, not to the wide entrance.
V- I lived with people below my standard.
“If you live with chicken you can never fly like an eagle”
I always lived with people who accepted me and who praised me for my intelligence and I played the game never with who challenged me and I myself convinced that I am a big guy and eventually they brought me down to their standard.
“we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
VI-I worked for money alone.
“You only lose what you cling on “
I didn’t work for a reason I was not passionate about what I was doing. I did work to make changes neither in my life nor in others life.
I think my middle -class Indian life and mindset installed the wrong concept in me since my childhood and I believed money can literally solve every issue in human life.Though I learned Astanga Marga ( EIGHTFOLD PATH ) of Sri Buddha I practised greedy capitalist method.
How Can I Still Stand Tall?
A single Auditing of 14 years described me as an absolute failure. Am I depressed, hopeless, old above all penniless?
Because I never stopped learning Knowledge alone opens up the horizons of opportunity
And above all knowing myself.
Marcus Aurelius to Jesus Christ and Krishna to Buddha all have one success mantra
“ Know thyself “
“Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up. if thou wilt ever dig.” Marcus Aurelius